Craving Physical Affection? Then Drop your Fear of Intimacy. ❤️

There are many factors which affect our craving for physical affection.

Intimacy is an important part of physical affection.

In fact, a lack of true intimacy will cut off physical affection altogether.

Imagine the pipes beneath your sink, where water freely flows from its source, all the way up through the faucet.

You are pretty sure that every time you go to turn your faucet on, water will flow.

This is the way you want physical affection to work in your relationship.

You want physical affection to flow freely at moment’s notice.

Feeling like your husband or wife is intentionally withholding affection causes bitterness and sometimes crushing pain. Going to the faucet and finding no running water indicates there’s an intimacy deficit.

If your relationship lacks intimacy, you or your partner are likely not being vulnerable with each other.

Practicing mutual vulnerability will enhance relationship intimacy.

Exercising vulnerability to build intimacy is one of the best ways to create a predictable flow of physical affection between you and your loved one.

Building intimacy is an investment.

So, what is intimacy?

Love experts talk a lot about intimacy.

For many of us, “lack of intimacy” is a vague phrase that we use to point to a deficiency or general feeling of unhappiness in our relationships.

We rarely stop to think about what intimacy actually means.

Lovelifelinks.com defines intimacy as sharing our unfiltered selves.

If you censor your heart and soul with your partner, there’s a good chance your relationship lacks intimacy.

Sometimes, we start out our relationship like an open book.

After some time, our boyfriend or girlfriend starts ignoring us, misunderstanding us, taking our feelings lightly, or forgetting to follow up with us.

As a result, we give up on intimacy and settle for occasional physical affection that is detached and meaningless.

This doesn’t mean we have to permanently settle for a lack of intimacy or physical affection.

It means we need to decide whether an investment in intimacy is worth it or not.

LoveLifeLinks.com believes intimacy is well worth the investment!

SO, if you’re craving physical affection, try these 5 Intimacy Investment Tips.

1. Pay your intimacy bills prior to seeking physical affection

Just like you have to pay your water bill in order for your water to work, intimacy in your relationship comes at a cost.

You cannot expect to experience fulfilling physical affection with your partner if they notice you’re not willing to pay the emotional price of intimacy.

Deep intimacy requires a significant investment.

If you can’t even keep a basic savings account by treating your partner with day-to-day respect, how can you expect to make an additional investment toward intimacy?

A truly satisfying sense of physical affection is the result of having the basic foundation of respect in your relationships, first.

2. Be willing to risk, if you want to build transcendent intimacy

As mentioned above, intimacy requires vulnerability.

Yet, Vulnerability is a risk, because no one likes rejection. Intimacy would be easier because no one would ever get hurt by their partner’s resistance to getting closer.

But this isn’t the case.

Most of the time, after an attempt at intimacy with our significant other, we immediately start trying to read our partner’s mind before they ever reject us.

We assume their delayed or detached reaction is an automatic rejection.

Maybe they were just caught off guard!

Remember, your partner craves intimacy too.

Therefore, consider whether you want to risk an investment of intimacy with them or risk losing them altogether.

3. Invest small to start | Every emotional investment toward physical affection counts

Most of the time, we don’t invest, because we feel like we need to have hundreds or thousands of dollars first to make a meaningful return.

We get discouraged by the discipline it will take to start small and slowly grow our portfolio.

But, starting small is a great way to learn. Starting small helps us to manage perceived risk.

In addition, investing small also builds trust. Trust in yourself and trust in your partner.

If your relationship has lacked intimacy for a long time, and you suddenly make a huge gesture of vulnerability, your partner may question your intentions.

Investing small demonstrates your commitment to the long-term.

Consistently investing in small ways that demonstrate vulnerability every day will build trust with your partner.

You can start small by sharing a childhood memory with your spouse, reminding your partner why you love them, apologizing for your actions, or simply by catching and holding your spouse’s gaze. Not in a creepy way though.

4. Go for the long-term investment

As introduced, it’s o.k. to start small.

Remember though, your spouse will measure your vulnerability by your consistency over the long-term.

No one wants to feel like they are being manipulated. Your partner doesn’t want to think you’re faking intimacy just to quickly gain physical affection.

If you truly want to see a return on your investment, you must understand the nature of your investment.

Remember to look at your relationship as a long term investment.

Continue to re-invest your small returns even when you feel like your progress is too slow.

5. Don’t panic

Every relationship has ups and downs. There are many external factors in life that affect our sense of intimacy in relationships.

We cannot expect to see a return everyday. We must patiently wait for our small investments over the long-term to payoff.

Don’t throw in the towel yet.

Yes. Vulnerability is scary. We may be tempted to quickly get out and cut our losses.

But, Don’t panic!

As a level-headed investor, you’ve chosen to invest in the most important relationship in your life.

Consequently, you have so much to gain!

Earn physical affection with vulnerability, love’s currency

The hope is that this article helps to satisfy your craving for physical affection.

Remember, intimacy is the foundation for physical affection.

LOVELIFELINKS.COM hopes physical affection will flow freely in your life.

Remember, you can feel love anywhere, anytime, all the time.