So, what is the meaning of hopeless romantic?
Research has shown there are “a number of parallels between the naturally rewarding phenomena associated with human love, and the artificial stimulation afforded by the use of addictive substances such as alcohol, heroin, or cocaine.”
Addiction or not, do you believe love + romance = hopelessness?
Sometimes, you may feel you’re at the mercy of an addiction to love and romance, but we believe the power of love is more than a chemical equation. Love presents us with a beautiful palette of romantic desires with which we can color our existence. Romance is an outpouring of our authentic inner selves. But what happens when couples experience romance at different frequencies?
When it comes to romance, there are two types of people: Hopeless romantics and HOPELESS romantics.
“Hopeless Romantic” Meaning Defined:
A hopeless romantic is someone who can’t help but long for and cultivate romance in their lives.
A HOPELESS romantic is someone who is hopeless in the department of romance.
Perhaps you identify with one of the hopeless romantic definitions.
To say it more simply, there are two main reasons people want to know more about being a “hopeless romantic.”
- You want to understand why you’re such a hopeless romantic OR
- You’re dating/married to a hopeless romantic and you feel like you’ll never measure up to your partner’s expectations.
The hopeless romantic and HOPELESS romantic typically don’t understand each other at all. In fact, many arguments may erupt because they each have different expectations for romance.
But believe it or not, there are benefits to the partnership of a hopeless romantic with a HOPELESS romantic.
For the next few minutes we’ll contrast and compare the romantic vs. not-so romantic personality types. Our hope is to highlight the benefits of both so that you’ll be able to gain a greater appreciation for your partner or partner-to-be.
5 Benefits of Being a Hopeless Romantic
1. Hopeless romantics can bring balance to the relationship
We venture to guess that one of the difficulties between a hopeless romantic and a HOPELESS romantic, boils down to different needs for predictability vs. unpredictability. The hopeless romantic is generally ready to follow where the romance leads.
While a HOPELESS romantic might exercise caution based on their belief that romance is only a fleeting pleasure. With such a huge gap between expectations, how can each love partner come to a common understanding about romance and its place in their relationship?
First, let’s consider that the joining of these two individuals will provide balance to the relationship. Someone who is obsessed with the romantic notion of relationships may miss out on true love. They may even jeopardize their existing relationship because they start looking for a romantic feeling they can’t quite describe. Or worse, a hopeless romantic may freak out when the romance dies down after the initial “infatuation” wears off. Sadly, they might suddenly initiate a breakup.
Conversely, the partner who’s not-so-romantic can provide comfort in predictability. They can gently remind their spouse that love is more than random romantic gestures. By the same token, the hopeless romantic can teach their more predictable partner that it’s ok and even exciting to approach a long-term relationship with a romantic mindset.
After all, romance is a state of mind. Just like we can plan to get into a state of meditation, we can work toward cultivating romance.
2. Being a hopeless romantic can protect your heart
There are some who would argue that the hopeless romantic is more prone to getting their heart broken. The logic is that a true romantic will immediately go head over heels for someone, only to be heart broken when the same intensity of love is not reciprocated.
It’s also argued that the HOPELESS romantic looks at relationships more logically, therefore will see red flags sooner. They also won’t be alarmed when the romance cools down in their relationship.
However, we’d like to argue that both the hopeless & HOPELESS romantic are at an advantage when it comes to their heart. Many times, even though a hopeless romantic can go all out and put their feelings on the line in the name of romance, they’re more likely to recover quickly. Because for them, romance isn’t all about a person, it’s also about their worldview.
A hopeless romantic can feel romantic love alone while watching a silly ROMCOM. They don’t necessarily need someone else to be the object of their romantic fantasies.
Conversely, a HOPELESS romantic typically has lower expectations when it comes to romance. They don’t equate love to romance, so they won’t be heartbroken if they don’t receive roses on their anniversary or sweet notes in their lunchbox every day.
In summary, those two at the extremes of romance, are running a close race when it comes to protecting their heart.
3. Hopeless romantics can help others see beauty
Every hopeless romantic has been met with disappointment when someone else doesn’t share their excitement about romance.
“Oh my goodness, look at that rainbow! It’s so beautiful!” the hopeless romantic exclaims.
The HOPELESS romantic replies, “What rainbow?”
One of the benefits of living with a hopeless romantic is that they see beauty all around. There’s not a chance they’ll miss remarking on a beautiful sunset. They’ll stop to take a photo of baby birds in a nest, even if it makes them late to an appointment.
This is a positive for both the HOPELESS romantic and the hopeless romantic. It isn’t that the HOPELESS romantic doesn’t enjoy sunsets and roses. It’s more likely that it just isn’t their reflex to notice beauty unless someone else calls it to their attention. In this case, there’s mutual benefit to the teacher and the student.
No matter what our preference is for romance, we all have an innate appreciation for beauty if we’ll just look up.
4. It’s o.k. to pace your yourself
The HOPELESS romantic understands the futility of romantic expectations in a long-term relationship. Yes, they understand that it logically makes sense to throw in a romantic gesture here and there. But they’re certain romance can’t be the norm. How could anyone possibly keep up with the true hopeless romantic?
However, there’s a little-known secret about hopeless romantics. They also silently wonder how long they’ll be able to keep the romance alive. They love to create romance, but also fear the idea that their relationship will be over once the romance dies.
This is where they can take comfort in the steady pace of romance that the HOPELESS romantic can sustain.
5. Hopeless romantics know how to ignite a spark and keep the fire burning
The HOPELESS romantic takes great pride in the fact that they’re grounded in reality believing love is a choice. They’ll never be swept off their feet. They brag about their immunity to cheating, claiming the lure of romance holds no temptation for them. They often feel superior to their partner who lives in the clouds when it comes to love and relationships.
In fact, the HOPELESS romantic might even scoff at their partner’s attempt to ignite a spark after several years have passed. But this is where the hopeless romantic has a few things to teach.
Romance doesn’t have to be confined to the beginning of a relationship. Intentional romance can give life to the boring relationship routine. A sense of romanticism can light up a room and fuel the imagination.
Without our hopeless romantics, where would our love end up? Yes, there’s much to be said of the stability a HOPELESS romantic brings. But in the spirit of LoveLifeLinks.com, we can’t help but err on the side of romanticism. We hope you’ll continue to be a hopeless romantic, meaning, in every sense of the word hopeless.
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