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Lonely on Valentine’s? 5 Top Ways to Feel Less Alone!

Feb 7, 2023 #alone on valentines, #feeling alone, #lonely on valentines, #valentine's day

You are so tired of feeling lonely on Valentine’s Day.

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And it doesn’t make sense. Normally, you don’t feel so alone!

Does this sound like you?

I did a little research on the reasons we start feeling so lonely on Valentine’s Day.

Based on those findings, below are 5 proposed ways you can curb your loneliness…

and maybe even enjoy the day!

5 top reasons you feel alone on Valentine’s Day, and what to do about it!

You’re bored on Valentine’s Day
The grass seems greener on the other side
Valentine’s Day reminds you of lost love
The distance you feel in your current relationship becomes painfully obvious
You don’t get a Valentine’s Day gift

Bored on Valentine’s Day

Every other day, you’re fine chilling at home after another long day at work.

But on Valentine’s Day, it seems like all your co-workers are headed out with their significant other.

Or classmates can’t stop gushing about how they’re spending the evening with their boyfriend or girlfriend.

It’s annoying. Off-putting. And downright cruel. I mean, surely, they know you’re going to be alone this Valentine’s!?!

So, what will you do about it? Sit around and cry? Sulk about past relationships gone-wrong?

No! Don’t waste your time!! YOU have the power!!

1. Take control of your Valentine’s Day

First, remember YOU are in charge of your Valentine’s Day.

The only person you have to please, is YOU!

One sure tactic to take the focus off of your loneliness on Valentine’s Day is to proactively plan how you want your Valentine’s Day to look and feel.

I know, I know. But that sounds lame, and you still feel alone!

Recall that being in a relationship doesn’t cure loneliness.

So, it’s worth a try. Treat yourself to something nice. Decorate your home. Surround yourself with love songs. Write a love letter to yourself.

These suggestions may sound cliche but look at it as your new superpower: loving yourself better than anyone else can.

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The grass is always greener on the other side

2. Remember, things are not always as they appear!

Second, adjust your perspective to better match with actual reality.

As you may recollect from past relationships, many times, Valentine’s Day is a holiday for simply going through the motions of love.

A dozen roses can only disguise so much!

Don’t get me wrong though. This site is all about love. Just don’t forget that external displays of love don’t always match what’s within.

True love and fulfilling companionship are well worth the wait!

Valentine’s Day reminds you of lost love

3. Solemnly celebrate lost love

Whether you’ve come to realize it or not, every single love relationship we’ve had, should be celebrated and memorialized.

Valentine’s Day is the perfect time to plan a memorial service of sorts.

Take the time to examine what your past relationships gave or took from you.

No matter how a relationship ended, it’s important to examine why you’re better off for it.

Sure, things like physical or emotional abuse should not be celebrated.

But the strength and perspective you’ve gained from surviving is worth a toast to yourself!

Conversely, if you’ve truly experienced transformational love that lit up your soul–meditate and remember that special moment you were finally awakened by love.

Valentine’s is the perfect time to practice thankfulness for your true love experiences.

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The distance you feel in your current relationship becomes painfully obvious

4. Take steps to repair or release your suffering relationship

Believe it or not, holidays can be a catalyst for improving or disproving relationships–especially on Valentine’s Day.

Maybe your spouse is sitting quietly on the couch next to you, while you’re wishing they would simply say, “Happy Valentine’s Day!” I mean, it’s not that hard, right?

True, many couples laugh off Valentine’s Day as a silly, useless holiday. But even the coolest of us, still want some sort of recognition in our relationship on the one day designated for tipping our hat to love.

Remember, as we’ve expressed many times on this site, vulnerability is essential to experiencing authentic love.

It takes vulnerability to say, “I love you.” It takes just as much vulnerability to say, “This isn’t working.”

Are you ready to repair or release your relationship?

You don’t receive a Valentine’s Day gift

5. Give the Valentine’s gift you’d like to receive to someone else

Remember, it really is therapeutic to give to others. Science backs up the idea that “It’s better to give, than to receive.”

Sadly, but predictably, most of us who are alone on Valentine’s only focus on ourselves. We think about how lonely we feel, why we aren’t good enough for love, the inequity of love, why our boyfriend or girlfriend didn’t get us a better gift or any gift at all. The list goes on.

But what if we turned all of that energy into effort?

It is entirely possible to change someone’s day, and even their life, simply by giving them a Valentine’s Day memory that totally takes them by surprise.

Giving to others doesn’t have to be complicated. Think of how much hope you could reignite by giving others a taste of love.

Take a trip to The Dollar Tree and load up your cart with Valentine’s Day Boxes of Chocolates. Give them out to lonely friends or even passing strangers.