Romantic love is arguably a figment of our imagination, some proclaim.
Western society is brain-washed by fairy tales.
Cinderella and her Prince set unrealistic expectations for relationships.
Yes, the idea of romantic love makes many of us begin to wonder what we’re missing in our current relationship, especially when we forget how our love has matured over time.
But what about you? What’s your definition of love? Do you believe romance is a pre-requisite to a long-lasting relationship? Do you let someone else’s definition of love put you in a bad mood about your relationship that currently lacks romance?
Some of us are so stuck on a romance scene from a Nicholas Sparks movie, that we miss an opportunity for love right in front of us.
Whether you’ve experienced romantic love or not, we’re here to share some insights that will help you come to peace with your love life, no matter how romantic it may or may not seem.
1. Everyone defines love in their own way.
The difficulty in writing about love is that we all define it in different ways. But for the sake of this article, we’ll define romantic love as a love you feel from your head to your toes. It’s unique in that it can’t really be explained accurately because it’s beyond words. It isn’t forced and always comes naturally. Yes, we can create an atmosphere of romance, but romantic love is different than romance. It’s more like a dream you don’t want to wake up from. The love song brought alive through the soul connection of two people. It’s not a crush, but a feeling of unending mutual acceptance and understanding. Romantic love, given the gift of time can blossom into a long-lasting love that is eternally tender, caring, patient, and kind—never to be forgotten.
2. It isn’t the end all, be all.
If you’ve never experienced romantic love, don’t despair. It isn’t necessary to spend your precious life avoiding meaningful relationships just because you’re holding out for transcendence. Humans need some level of predictability in relationships, but intrinsic in our spirit–is the desire for a deep love that exists outside of our effort to simply survive our marriage, for instance. Every type of relationship, whether romantic or not, can bring fulfillment to our life. Unfortunately, some people spend a lifetime waiting in loneliness for the perfect romantic love. We’re not suggesting you should settle for sub-par relationships. But you shouldn’t run away from commitment just because you’re always holding out for the perfect romantic relationship. Don’t give up a promising partnership on a whim that there might be something or someone better just around the corner.
3. Romantic love can’t be planned.
Romantic love isn’t just a romantic song, quote, message, kiss, movie, or gift. Yes, those things can be a symbol or outpouring of a romantic love that’s already been born. But, it’s not just a date night you can plan. It happens spontaneously and takes you by surprise. If you’re a hopeless romantic, you’re likely all about lighting up a room with candles and sprinkling rose petals all over the bed. And, that’s a good thing. Because some of us have never been in tune to the possibilities of romance. Romantic gestures can be a way to invite love into our life. But ultimately, real romantic love doesn’t work hard to exist. It unfolds in a harmonious way with no planning or practice whatsoever.
4. We are all a hopeless romantic.
As mentioned previously, love is an intrinsic desire of all humanity. So why don’t we all experience it? Instead, we write love poems that express love’s mystery. We create screenplays that bemoan unrequited love. Yet, this depth of loving still evades us. Why do we spend many of our days longing for something so deep, so spiritually mysterious and yet end up in run-of-the-mill relationships where we feel unloved and alone? This is a question of the ages, but here is an observation. Anything deep within, must be called forth with certitude in order to appear. Usually, we hear a small whisper, feel a faint calling–but we never take the risk of opening our heart all the way, of finally calling out with a gut cry, “I’m ready for love.”
5. Romantic Love transcends human logic.
Unfortunately, there is nothing logical about love. As we mentioned previously, romantic love is unplanned. Its spontaneous nature is opposite to logic. If you’re making all of your life choices based on a logical construct, you’re most likely blocking the chance for love to appear. Take a moment to assess where your logic gets in the way of opportunities to reach the heights of heaven. Love will never disappoint. Logic does not protect you from losing. Romantic love is a gift you’ll cherish forever.
LoveLifeLinks.com believes you’ll experience romantic love if you open your heart completely.
Remember, you can feel love anywhere. Anytime. All the time.
