Hopeless Romantic? | Romance gave me hope and saved my life

You are not the only one curious about the phrase hopeless romantic. In fact, according to research using a popular AI translation tool, there are more than 80 translations for “Hopeless Romantic.”

I believe that love is a powerful unifying force that connects us all. Diverse expression of love and all that love means is one of the most beautiful forces of nature.

Cited in Harvard Medical School article, “More than 20 years ago, the biological anthropologist Helen Fisher studied 166 societies and found evidence of romantic love—the kind that leaves one breathless and euphoric—in 147 of them.”

But why is the association of romance with hopelessness such a common theme across planet earth? It seems like romance wields its magical power over us all (even though some may not admit it).

Romance can be a powerful catalyst for love

Based on firsthand experience, I want to share how a lifetime of being a hopeless romantic finally led to a titillating experience of transformative love. Romance was the catalyst that turned my life around.

For my entire life, I’ve felt a keen sense of awareness that romance is tangible. It wasn’t just a fairytale. Although, some naysayers tried and still do try to convince me otherwise. But despite being a hopeless romantic, I still had no concrete evidence that genuine romance could be an integral, undisputable part of a committed relationship.

Identifying as a hopeless romantic was a lonely experience at times

• I secretly wrote romantic love poems and love songs even though I’d never experienced organic romance firsthand.
• I authored quite the collection of undivulged love letters to potential lovers.
• My desire for romantic experiences was insatiable (until I finally had proof that romance wasn’t just a figment of my imagination).
• I seldom to never talked with others about my unfulfilled desire for romance.

Unfortunately, private desires and hopeless nights of loneliness characterized my love life for years.

Why couldn’t romance be a part of my everyday existence? Truth is, I would have settled for one genuinely romantic experience. Was there something wrong with me?

My heart knew so well that romance was its own living and breathing reality. But according to common belief, my head was stuck in the clouds. Until one day, romance proved what I knew all along.

Romance in synchronicity with true love breathes life into our existence.

Being a hopeless romantic gave me hope to live

I think many people have mixed feelings about romance. In my research, I noticed that some hate being a hopeless romantic and seek to suppress their desires. Others feel helpless because they’re at the mercy of an elusive ideal. But most of all, as humans we are looking for meaning in the paradox of hopeless romance. I was less concerned about the paradox, and more interested in proving that the experience of romance wasn’t a hopeless proposition.

So how and why did romance finally make its debut in my life?

I’m a firm believer in writing stream of consciousness. It takes a lot of concentration not to concentrate. The idea is to write what comes to your mind without changing or qualifying it, even if it comes out as gibberish. Usually, when we talk to ourselves or others, we deny ourselves the power of undiluted truth.

Expressing the unashamed truth to myself through writing is finally what opened the door to romance, and as it turned out, true love.

I decided to pour out my soul on paper

The following excerpt is a polished version of my initial stream of consciousness. Looking back, this was an expression of what romance truly meant to me.

Love is falling for a line that mixes unexpectedly as an intoxicating potion, promising to cure the most hardened of lovers. Not just any line.  A precise line at the right time transforming cliché into passion and at the root of these love inquiries is the synthesis of one question, “Exactly what is it that you want?”  

The highest mating call is an authentic probe of another to understand what makes them tick. It’s not that they know what they want or that you’ll ever figure it out.  You just both want to deeply know the other and in turn discover yourself.  It’s spontaneity and love impeccably aligned in the split second you realize you’re past the point of no return. 

To summarize, I believed romance was connecting with someone who understood me. Someone who could read my mind. A human being who saw beyond the here and now with an essence who put my mind at ease as if we were one. A soul who recognized me for all the good that I am. The missing piece to a lifetime of puzzling hopelessness.

I entered my personal zone of creativity

Around the time I began to exercise uninhibited truth telling within, my creativity soared.

Unknowingly, my move toward authenticity in my writing and art created the perfect storm for love.

Shortly thereafter, my soulmate danced into my life, giddy about rain with one foot firmly planted in our shared imaginary worlds. In one breath, I was no longer a hopeless romantic. I was hopelessly in love.

Did romance really save my life?

Some may say, I’m exaggerating the power of romance to heal and resurrect. But in my experience romance and true love are a package deal. My introduction to true love wasn’t scattered rose petals or candlelit dinners. I found romance at the intersection of a troubled past and true love. Not only did this romance buoy me with hope I’d long forgotten existed, but it opened my heart to a love that doesn’t depend on other people or circumstances to sustain it.

My love story is so much longer than what can be contained in this article. But I hope with all of my heart that you’ll continue to be a hopeless romantic until romance sweeps you off your feet. I pray that you’ll experience the manifestation of true love in your life. Despite years of feeling rejected, abused, unloved and alone–love and romance finally found me, and I sincerely hope it finds you too!

No matter your culture or language, we hope you find true romance once and for all!

“Hopeless Romantic” in 83 Languages

قل انني رومانسي لا امل في amodio Феяname roumanicomment မျှော်လင့်ချက်မဲ့ အချစ်ရေး romàntic sense esperança 柔情之人 無望的浪漫 amoure san espwa beznadno romantično beznadějný romantik håbløs romantik hopeloos romantisch senespera romantikulo lootusetu romantiline toivoton romantiikka désespérément romantique romántico sen esperanza უიმედო რომანტიული hoffnungslos romantisch αθεράπευτα ρομαντικό નિરાશાજનક રોમેન્ટિક manaʻolana aloha ʻole רומנטי חסר תקנה मैं गंदे दिमाग के साथ निराशाजनक रोमांटिक हू reménytelen romantikus vonlaust og rómantískt romantis tanpa harapan rómánsúil gan dóchas romantica 絶望的なロマンチック ಹತಾಶ ಪ್ರಣಯ үмітсіз романтик មនោសញ្ចេតនា​គ្មាន​សង្ឃឹម 가망 없는 낭만 bêhêvî romantîk үмүтсүз романтик romantic ສິ້ນຫວັງ desperato venereum bezcerīgs romantisks beviltiška romantiška hoffnungslos romanteschen безнадежно романтично tsy misy fanantenana romantika romantik tanpa harapan romantic bla tama wawata kore найдваргүй романтик आशाहीन रोमान्टिक håpløs romantisk wopanda chiyembekezo wachikondi نا امید رومانوی ਨਿਰਾਸ਼ ਰੋਮਾਂਟਿਕ نا امیده رومانتيک عاشقانه ناامید beznadziejny romantyk romântico sem esperança romantic fără speranță безнадежный романтик alofa leai se faamoemoe romansach gun dòchas beznadežno romantično vasina tariro yerudo බලාපොරොත්තු රහිත ආදර beznádejný romantický brezupno romantično jaceyl aan rajo lahayn maikutlo a lerato a hlokang tshepo romántico sin esperanza kutokuwa na matumaini ya kimapenzi hopplös romantik ako ay walang pag-asa romantikong романтикии ноумед நம்பிக்கையற்ற காதல் శృంగార నిస్సహాయ โรแมนติกสิ้นหวัง umutsuz romantik безнадійний романтичний umidsiz romantik lãng mạn vô vọng rhamantus anobeithiol uthando olungenathemba פאַרפאַלן ראָמאַנטיש

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