I thought to surrender the outcome meant to surrender control.
At times, my financial journey has felt like losing control, rather than a quiet and confident surrender to the outcome.
Along my financial journey, I’ve made it a habit to Pray, Seek, Plan, and Learn as a means to reach financial independence.
I explain those habits in the full financial guide below.
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Surrender is a different story. I hate surrender.
In my past, surrender felt like a slow death to me. It isn’t about surrendering to the will of other people or to a God who we often view as merciless.
Surrender is letting go of the outcome
Surrender is accepting that our original vision is now some squirrely version of a life we hardly recognize.
It’s acknowledging we don’t have all the answers.
Surrender is willingly taking a different route, knowing that the detour was not necessarily of our making.
Surrender the outcome of going to college
When I was in college, I didn’t have my future all planned out. All I wanted was to obtain a college degree. My parents had instilled in me that education is a pre-requisite to success.
Choosing a path of study at college required surrendering to the fact that I didn’t know what I wanted to be when I grew up.
Attending college meant I had to surrender to the “institution.” In order to pass my classes, I had to surrender to the personality of each professor who had unique requirements for completing assignments.
While attending college, it felt like I’d never finish. Four years seemed like forever. Every day I had to surrender to the fact that I had no idea what would come after college. I had no promise of a job.
There appeared to be no magic bullet of success.
Despite all of the uncertainty about what would come after college, I still surrendered to the popular opinion that college is a more direct route to financial success.
Surrender the outcome of finding a career
After college, I was adamant about finding a career role at a large corporation. Yet it wasn’t happening for me. After thousands of cover letters and applications.
Therefore, I surrendered to the reality and embarrassment of accepting entry-level positions that I could have easily gotten without a college degree.
With bills coming in, it would have been disadvantageous for me to refuse the lesser jobs just because I felt like I was “better than that.”
People have varying opinions on accumulating debt at different stages in life to go for the bigger win.
But in my case, I decided to take part-time positions as a musician to support myself while I cracked the code on getting a “real” job, instead of accumulating debt.
Surrender the outcome of building a life with someone
When I moved to Cameroon with my husband, I surrendered to the unknown of moving to a completely unfamiliar third-world culture where I was uncertain I’d thrive or even survive.
Every time I got into a taxi, I surrendered to the possibility of a car crash.
In fact, I escaped several car crashes in Cameroon – unscathed.
I surrendered to my spouse’s management of our finances at the time, because this made the most sense, considering he understood the Cameroonian currency and its value in the marketplace.
I surrendered to the inequity of my salary versus the salary of other school employees from abroad, because I had no teaching certificate and I was technically a “local.”
Upon deciding to return to the United States, I surrendered to the possibility that my spouse’s paperwork would not be approved in time to attend the delivery of our first child.
Sometimes surrender isn’t a choice.
Our will is bent like iron in the fire. This is not the type of surrender that I’m talking about.
Surrender that renders results is quiet and painless and final.
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