The Snow White kind of love
When you hear the name, “Snow White” what do you think of?
Do you think of a young little lady with pale snow white skin, black short hair and a mindless singing little thing? A girl who does nothing but wish for a prince, a kiss, and prances and dances around?
Snow White is one of my favorite movies, at least from Disney, and it’s also one of my favorite stories. Many people pass off the romance and character of Snow White as old and outdated.
People say we have outgrown a character like Snow White.
That her romance is unrealistic and too simplistic.
What people often don’t ponder is where Snow White comes from as a character.
We all know the story of a young girl dreaming, wishing. Her song is not a song of wanting, but one of wishing.
Pain is often a pre-requisite to deep love
She lives under an abusive mother who treats her with jealousy and disdain. She has to do the chores all around the castle and only gets to dress in rags unlike the stepmother herself, who revels in jewelry and riches and lazes around talking to her magic mirror who feeds her ego.
A parent’s love isn’t supposed to be one that hurts, but the stepmother isn’t in it for love or care.
Snow White is outside singing her song, the wishing song, surrounded by doves when she wishes into the well.
“I’m wishing for the one I love to find me today.”
Some people say this wish is a shallow wish but can we not all relate to wishing for love?
Sometimes love seems magical and unattainable. Sometimes we want that picture-perfect romance and don’t know how to reach out for it. Connecting with others is difficult, so we wish on a star or in a well or pray to God that some perfect man or woman will come into our lives and sweep us off our feet.
Snow White makes a simple wish to be rescued by love
In Snow White’s case, it’s less of wishing for love explicitly, but wishing for something wonderful to take her away from a life that she finds uncomfortable and abusive.
She is just a young girl and doesn’t know love from her mother, or anyone really besides the animals and doves she seems to be so in tune with.
It’s easy for her to imagine that someone just shows up and loves her, someone who shows her that she is worth something and fills her life with joy and adores her and recognizes her for who she really is.
Not the stepdaughter in rags but a young girl who wants to be recognized and appreciated.
I think most can relate.
The difference in Snow White’s case is the fact that her prince suddenly does show up right besides her, singing with her.
Are you running from love, even though you wished for it?
The first thing that she does?
Run away.
She is frightened and runs back inside of the castle up the stairs to what appears to be her bedroom. Love can be scary when it does show up in our lives. I can say for certain that I have feared love in my life. We don’t always recognize that fear outright but it can show up in more subtle ways, like our avoidance or arrogance.
When you’ve been hurt, or you have lost before, love can be hard to find again. Whether the person who hurt you was your mother, an ex-lover, or even in your own mind, God.
So, it is often a response that we make in which we try to run away or abandon people and things before we can get hurt again.
Telling someone you can’t hang out that day, or making a snide remark about how they should hang out with their “real” friends.
Shutting down your partner in an argument, whether it comes out in a fearful shut down or an aggressive one.
It can be hard to open up our hearts to love.
If you were brave enough to sing a simple wish for love, be brave enough to follow the love you’ve been given.
LoveLifeLinks.com believes a simple wish for love can be met with the answer to your deepest longings.
Remember, you can feel love anywhere. Anytime. All the time.
**Story contributed by Aster.
